Remember how when you were little you thought you were invincible? At the very least you had invincible imaginary friends? Children can spends hours of creative play, many without anyone else around. They are just able to keep themselves entertained.
I remember spending hours by myself playing with my Barbie dolls and acting out my life through them. My Barbie was a singing star! She was always on stage. Funny….. that’s one of the things that I personally enjoy doing! Did we as kids live out our fantasies? Were they really just fantasies or something deep within us telling us things that we loved? Hard to tell.
How much do we stifle our children’s creative abilities as they grow? Though I realize that it’s important to stay focused on the task at hand while in school…. don’t we discourage our children from daydreaming? Are we teaching them that to ‘dream’ is wrong? Then as adults…. how hard is it for us to believe the concepts of the Law of Attraction when we were told as a child we shouldn’t daydream! Where is the happy medium?
Well… hind sight is 20/20, isn’t it? How I wish I had known things and done them differently for my own children. Not that I’m saying I was a bad Mom…. but I don’t know that I encouraged them to go after their dreams. How I wish I knew then what I know now.
Talk about being in the right place at the right time….. Today I had the opportunity to meet Valerie Ackley. She is the author of the new book for children called, What Are You Thinking? It’s just a short illustrated book trying to help kids understand the power of their minds. What a good age to teach that! Instead of telling them all the time, “You can’t do that!”…. let’s encourage them to believe they can! Not in a ‘all I have to do is wish for it way’… but letting them know that they can get what ever their heart desires as long as they know there is ‘action’ involved in the process.
Valerie Ackley is the sister of Leslie Householder. Leslie is the author ofthe Jack Rabbit Factor. I did a post on Leslie and her book a while back. While Valerie was taking a course from her sister, she had a big ‘Aha!’ moment where she realized how awesome it would be to teach the same concepts she was learning to her children. Hence, the birth of the book, What Are You Thinking? began. It began with a thought! Which is what the whole Law of Attraction thing is about! Thoughts become things!
I’m grateful that I had the opportunity to meet and talk with Valerie today. I had told myself that other day that I’m going to meet Leslie Householder someday (I’m friends with her on FB…so that’s a start!) and I also want to meet Leslie’s mentor Bob Proctor. I think meeting Valerie today was a step in the right direction to manifesting those dreams!
Though I don’t have grandchildren around yet to try these concepts on…. I look forward to someday being able to help them realize their little dreams can come true when the right steps are followed. And now I have Valerie’s book to help me do that! Teach ’em while they are young! For those of you with young ones….. start it now! Besides… the way I see it, it will only help build your belief that you can make YOUR dreams come true too! We have to reprogram our subconscious minds as adults…. we might as well program the little ones correctly from the start! Let them learn to be like the Little Engine Who Could! I Think I Can….. I Think I Can….. I Know I Can! I KNOW I Can!!
Isn’t this about the hardest concept we deal with? I know it is for me. While I look around me and find so much to be abundantly grateful for…… I can still seem to find things I dislike. You know what I mean. It can play into so many aspects of our lives. For me personally, it seems to always be putting myself down, in myriads of ways.
What is it with this self esteem thing? Why do we all struggle with it so much? It seems that when we are dissatisfied with ourselves, we are very good at finding the fault in others. Whether is consciously or subconsciously….. we seem to find fault in others to perhaps make ourselves feel better. Or look better in our own eyes. Let’s just say that it’s easy to be judgmental, of ourselves as well as others.
I’m trying very hard to become a better person. Heaven knows I’m far from perfect….. but I feel I’m trying to make a conscious effort to improve. In so doing…. I’m studying a lot about the ‘law of attraction’. Go ahead….. scoff at me if you must….. but I’m finding there really is a lot of truth to it. I recently subscribed to Teresa Romain’s 12 Essentials for Greater Abundance in Everyday Life. It’s a free email she sends out for 12 days discussing the essential things we need to be doing to create more abundance in our life. I would highly recommend you go to her website and sign up for these free emails. http://www.accessabundance.com She brings up some really great points. I hope she won’t mind if I use a couple of them here.
One of the most profound points is to look at the following and try to figure out what it says:
What do you see? There are two ways to look at that…. one creates positive energy while the other one doesn’t. First of all….. we are all SOMEWHERE!! So we can’t really be no where….. it’s just our perception. Her point is to accept that we are NOW HERE at this point in our life. Maybe it’s not where we really want to be, financially, with our weight, in our relationships, etc…. but the fact remains…. you are NOW HERE! Teresa puts it this way: “To do so doesn’t mean you have to LIKE being “here” – but it does mean that you realize and accept that it’s where you’re at – for the moment. And it’s this practice that frees you and your energy to take actions and make empowered choices that will help you get where you want to be.”
Another source that talks about his same idea is in a book called “Loving What Is” by Byron Katie. Her approach is a little different in that she has you look at the other person or thing that is bothering you and then ask yourself 4 questions. In dealing with the answers to those questions…. you come to accept things as they are and love people in-spite of it.… including yourself. Now while it’s an interesting read, I honestly didn’t quite finish it because I felt like I needed to do ‘The Work” as I was reading. My husband, on the other hand, just read it through. Although I think to get the most use out of the book you should do ‘The Work’…. I don’t see any harm in reading it completely and then going back through it. I’ll have to do that…. when it gets returned to me by the person who borrowed it. ANYWAY…. I just found a link to a pdf copy of her ‘little book’ online. It’s a smaller version and will give you the basic concept if you want to check it out. http://www.thework.com/downloads/Little%20Book.pdf
Getting back to my point….!!!! The whole idea of telling ourselves we aren’t thin enough or rich enough or good enough, etc… is creating a feeling of scarcity…. which does not allow the good things to appear in our lives. Oh yes…. we are getting results from the universal ‘law of attraction’….. just not the ones we want! And it’s because we are focused on what we don’t have instead of what we do have. (Hence one of my reasons for creating this blog….) So to paraphrase what Teresa Romain says…. Celebrate what you have, what you did get done, what actions you did take no matter how small….. don’t focus on what you didn’t do or don’t have! Be graceful for NOW… no matter what now looks like! Love yourself for who you are and be grateful for what you have now! Life will only get better when you do!
“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.” — Buddha
My friend just made a post of FB that made me remember the “Glad Game” from Pollyanna. I started thinking about what a great idea that would be for all of us to do… and it made me grateful for the idea! A positive attitude can make such a HUGE difference!
It’s funny….. there are millions of things to be grateful for….. but because I’ve made a commitment to post one a day…. I seem to be struggling on what to pick! It has to be something I feel I can ‘expound’ on. Certain things I’m waiting for a particular day to post…. (since I have a whole year)…. but Shelly’s post on FB totally made me start thinking about turning the things around that frustrate us and realize how lucky we are to have what we have….. even if it’s not exactly what we think we need at the moment.
Heaven only knows that we are so blessed in this country! We just seem to take it for granted and we forget to be thankful for things that sometimes may seem annoying! For instance….. what if you had a flat tire on the freeway today?? Why on earth would you be grateful for that???? Well…. you really could find a lot of reasons. It may not apply to every situation and sometimes you may never really know…. but what if having that flat tire made you NOT be at a certain intersection at the exact same time someone ran a red light? (God has Angels watching over me…..) I mean…. you may never know that…. but you really can find something positive in every situation if you try hard enough. Maybe the person that stops to help you with that flat turns out to be a really important person in your life and you may have never met them had you not had a flat tire!!
There’s an old song that goes: Accentuate the Positive, Eliminate the Negative, Latch on to the affirmative, Don’t mess with Mr. In-between…. I think that’s pretty good advice. As the quote at the beginning of my post states….. ‘at least you didn’t die…. so let’s all be thankful’
There’s a lesson to be learned at every turn if only we are open to looking for it. So here’s my challenge to you…. think back on something that happened today or even this week that you were upset about and see if you can’t find the good in it! Try playing the ‘glad game’!