I recently read an article by Leslie Householder entitled: Your Reticular Activating System and a Tranquilizer Gun. I found it to be a very interesting article which made me start thinking about several things. The basis of the article talks about how she and her husband were in the same room trying to concentrate on their own tasks when suddenly her husband shouted out of exasperation: “Argh! I need a tranquilizer gun!” She thought he was referring to the noise their daughters had been making playing in the tub in their master bathroom when he was in fact, he was referring to the noisy barking dogs outside which she hadn’t even noticed. It was a profound point for her to realize that they were both in the same room and yet they were hearing different things. As Leslie put it, “Same environment, different experience.”
How many times have you noticed that in your life? Someone in the same room as you has a totally difference experience than you? Probably quite often if you are paying attention. People can see the same movie and have it be a different experience. Perhaps one person notices something that another person doesn’t, whether it be a message in a story line or a subtle image in the background that one sees and another doesn’t. It’s all a matter of perspective and where our mind is focused at the moment. It could even be that one person is ready to hear something, but to another, the same information just slips right on by or doesn’t resonate with them.
We don’t always see what other people see. Have you ever looked at the clouds and seen some kind of a a figure but can’t seem to get the other person to see it? I recently posted a couple of photos on Facebook that have a ‘hidden’ image in them. They are fascinating. If you don’t see the image…. you can’t figure out what the other guy is trying to talking about or you may even get frustrated. But once you see it, you almost can’t go back to seeing it the old way. At least it’s harder to do…. but you at least now have a perspective of both sides of the picture.
So, how do we know when someone is ready to see what we see? Or are we ready to see what they see? It’s not always easy. I think it takes being open to another’s opinion and respecting the fact that they may never see or understand your ‘picture’, but you can do your best to try to understand theirs. It doesn’t mean you have to agree with it, or even like their opinion…. but we can all respect each others opinions.
While it’s important in some situations for everyone to be on the same ‘page’…. it’s still important to respect others feelings and ideas. That’s where brilliant creations are born! IDEAS! It’s just possible that someone else may come up with a better way…. a new idea…. a breakthrough. And we should respect that.
Maybe we just need to remember that we may all be in the same room of life, but we are all having different experiences…. and that’s OK. We don’t need to be right… but it’s also important that we hold onto the things that we know are true according to our own perspective and understanding. We can still allow someone else to see things their way without losing our own perspective.
That’s what makes the world go around! Wouldn’t it be boring if we were all the same?
I’m grateful for people who can make me look at things in a different way than perhaps I’ve been looking. Especially when it comes to seeing myself in a different light than I see myself!
I am Grateful! How are You?
As suggested from the comment below…. I’m including another picture which is a great illustration of seeing someone 2 different ways.